Starting a conversation can become a very complex task. On some occasions, after the greeting our mind goes blank and we don’t know how to continue. That’s why it’s important that you know how to make people like you more.
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Either because you are shy or because you feel a little insecure with whom you are talking; Projecting a good image is part of our ability to communicate.
If your goal is to make a good impression, and be remembered as someone charismatic and social, here are 4 techniques so you know how to make people like you more.
How to like people more.
1. Let your formal pose not look so stiff.
Yes, since we were little our parents taught us to be upright. To have excellent posture and shake hands firmly.
It is very good to demonstrate security through non-verbal language. However, overdoing it can be seen as giving yourself more importance than the person you just met. Which is why you might not like them from the first moment.
Regardless of your position, your social position, and even if you are closing an important deal; It is transcendental to show a little humility.
This is the example given by Former President Clinton when he was hosting Nelson Mandela. (first 20 seconds of the video)
What we have here are two important people, who put aside their political status to make themselves look like ordinary people.
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So, the next time you meet someone, relax, take a step forward, tilt your head towards him/her a bit, smile, and show that you are the one being honored.
We all like to know how to make people like us better. If you show that you are really happy to meet another person, the other person will reciprocate. This will make your nerves go away and you will be able to be yourself.
2. Have respectful physical contact.
To know how to make people like you more, you have to understand that physical contact can be very important. A subtle touch can influence our behavior, increase the level of sympathy and make us seem more friendly and cordial to the other person.
Do it with respect of course. Touch the person lightly on the upper arm or shoulder. Make it look casual and not intimidating.
Review the Clinton video again, and confirm how these two presidents shake hands and how Clinton adds his left hand to the shake. This combined with his posture and gestures makes his greeting more genuine and sincere.
Something similar could happen to you, try this. The next time you’re walking up behind a person you know, tap them lightly on the shoulder as you move towards them, I guarantee you and they will have a much more sincere greeting.
Physical contact breaks down natural barriers and decreases the actual perceived distance between you and the other person; a key component in the art of knowing how to make people like you.
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3. Practice social Jiu-Jitsu.
When you meet a person, you chat for a few minutes and when you say goodbye you think: “I just had a very good conversation, he or she is great”. Then, if you think about it more, you realize that you didn’t really know anything about the other person.
The individuals we perceive to be the most likable are often masters of Social Jiu-Jutsu: the ancient art of getting you to talk about yourself without realizing it.
JJS experts use their interest, courtesy and spontaneity to throw a touch of grace at you. It is for this reason that you like them.
To become a JJS expert, you just have to ask the right questions, be open and willing to describe and introspect. Ask how, why, or who.
As soon as you know more about that person, ask how they did it; Or why did he do it?; What did he like?; What did he learn? Or what would you have done if you were in a similar situation?
Asking the right questions implicitly shows that you respect the other person’s opinion, and of course her.
4. Let the other person be better than you in some way.
Admit it, someone is better than you in some aspect. Let them demonstrate these qualities and you will discover how people like you better.
Many people when they meet for the first time, inadvertently compare themselves to each other as a competition. Just trying to show himself as the best.
Avoid this type of attitude, if this is the case, show yourself as the one who does not want to win this rivalry. Just be complementary, be moved, and admit that you’re not perfect.
You can admit that you feel a little jealous, but that you are impressed by this great achievement and ask how he did it for once. It’s useful information and just by asking it, you’ll seem more charismatic.
Don’t be shy about showing a little vulnerability. Many people can be momentarily shocked by something that is contrived, but they really appreciate sincerity. Be yourself, people like the real “me”.
Conclusion.
This all sounds easy, right? But it is not if you are shy. The standard attitude and the usual line: “Hello, how are you, nice to meet you and see you later”, does not get you beyond being seen as a person with good manners.
But if you want to create an excellent impression and be remembered as someone charismatic. You must try harder.
You will have to be more reverent, genuine, courteous and show greater sensitivity towards others. When you help people feel better about themselves, you will make a better impression and therefore you will be remembered more easily.
I hope this information is of great help to you and you put it into practice 🙂
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